Has there ever been a time when you needed someone to challenge you to overcome an impending failure, but lacking their nudge, you ended up accepting some level of defeat? I remember a time in business when I had achieved a personal goal, and found myself kind of coasting. With no real goal in mind, I was blindsided by an event that set my progress back. I was coaxed into making destructive decisions through an emotional ploy because I had no life mileposts to give me a reference point. Without guidance, reference, or goals, I drifted along as I was being told, and experienced a personal failure as a result. Today I realize that I would have made different decisions, and avoided those mistakes, if I had someone trustworthy to nudge me by speaking reason into my ear.
Different people need these nudges to come in different forms.
Some people are motivated by competition. They see other’s gaining success, or a friend encouraging them to “keep-up,” and that’s all they need to push them to succeed.
Some people need to be shamed into success. They find drill sergeant like people to come around them and chastise them into success.
Some people need a friend to encourage them with positive reminders of what they have overcome in the past.
Some people seem to find motivation from inside. They succeed for themselves, and always seem to be striving for some far off goal. Unfortunately, someone standing alone, is more likely to fail in a crisis, and even these folks need someone to help then with perspective in life.
While as leaders we need to help our team members find what motivates them, we first need to make sure we are setting ourselves up for success not failure. I encourage you to personally find a friend that you can regularly meet with and confidentially share with each other your struggles, triumphs, dilemmas, and wisdom. Think about what kind of friend that needs to be (motivator, competitor, drill sergeant, mentor, etc.) to help you be your best. Next, then set yourself a goal of making a plan to begin meeting with such a person before the summer is out. If you already have such a relationship in place, don’t let the summer drift away without keeping up your regular meetings.
We all need a nudge now and then, and the wisest of us have brought people into our lives that are ready to point us back onto the right path whenever we’re getting off track.
Hebrews 10:24–25a (NIV) And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, 25 not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another.
1 Thessalonians 5:11 (NIV) Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.
Blessings, Pastor Tim